She's self-conscious in the bedroom

Q: I'm the heaviest I've ever been because of a previous medical issue. How do I get over feeling self-conscious in the bedroom? My husband's a personal trainer who has sixpack abs and everything. He tells me he loves me and still finds me attractive. He even wants to have sex in the daylight. No! How do I get over myself?

Mia: As Nike says, "Just do it." Also, if it's OK with your doctor, get yourself to the gym.

Steve: Be happy as heck your hunky hubby still hungers for you. Try to compromise on what he wants. But Mia's right. You'll feel a lot better about yourself if you lose weight. Ask him to help you exercise.

Q: I've been with this sweet young sister with a great booty for about a year and everything is cool. Now I'm finding myself attracted a little bit when I see her younger brother's booty. What do you suggest I do about it?

Mia: Don't ignore the feeling. You may be bicurious. Why not just see what those urges compel you to do? It may be nothing. Meanwhile, be honest with yourself and your girlfriend. Let her know that your attention is drifting. Wouldn't you want her to do the same with you if she were eyeing your sister's rear end?

Steve: Being attracted to more rear-ends than your girlfriend's would make you a rear end. So Mia's right: 'Fess up and let her decide whether you're worth keeping.

EDITOR'S NOTE: A reader wrote in response to last week's question from a woman concerned that her new guy hadn't made any sexual advances toward her:

"A possibility that you did not mention is that he is gay but not out of the closet. Dating and marriage with little sexual activity can be warning signs that there is a same-sex attraction either being tamped down or indulged on the side while dating her.

"Don't advise her to see what develops in their relationship, but do advise her to observe more about him. If a handsome guy walks by, do his eyes follow him? Do men appear to flirt with him? Is he super-possessive of his cellphone?

Does he have a male friend with whom he's particularly close? Does he spend longer than would be expected when he goes to the restroom or runs an errand? Are his friends gay?

"It is nice not to have to fight a guy off, but if he is gay she needs to know."

Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at steveandmia@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.