Q: Me and this girl were sexting, and she asked me to give her a "facial." I like a little kinky stuff once in awhile, but don't you think this was pretty forward for a woman I hadn't even had sex with yet? I just stopped answering her texts and never heard back from her. What would make her go there?
Mia: That lady's been watching way too much porn and maybe thinks that's the kind of stuff guys want these days. If that's not what you're into, move on. There are way too many hot women out there for you to worry about someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. It's time to say, next!
Steve: I've never understood the attraction either. Maybe there are some sexually adventurous women into the practice in their private lives, but the facial seems like something better left to the professionals.
Q: I had a major depressive episode and got put on an antidepressant. It really has helped. But ever since, I haven't had any sex drive. I would like to rebuild my social life, but I'm really scared that I will not be able to perform sexually. I don't even get erections anymore, and when I do, they aren't strong. I have anxiety as well as depression. What should I do?
Steve: You're taking antidepressants, and they're helping with the depression, but killing your sex drive, and you're concerned that if you go off the drugs, it will kill the sex drive that's already killed? That is depressing. How is the rest of your life going these days? It's hard to imagine the dating scene will be a pick-me-up. Kidding aside, depression is serious and going off depression meds is very serious. Talk to a medical professional. Write us when you're back in the game.
Mia: See your doctor. Go immediately. Maybe she can lower your dosage or switch you to another drug that won't completely kill your sex life. Meanwhile, post a dating profile online if you haven't already. Update your wardrobe. Join a club so you can start meeting people. Make sure you have a nice place where you can bring a girl home to. My point is: Start now to get ready to be more social. That way, by the time your doctor gets your meds right, you'll be ready to liven up that dead bedroom of yours. Good luck!
Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or firstname.lastname@example.org.