On summer sex drives and bi-coastal romances
For the summer, hes in New Jersey, shes in California, and hes worried.
Q: I'm just finishing my junior year in college and had a great relationship with a sophomore the last two semesters.
Now, I'm worried. She told me she loves me, but she lives in California. I live in New Jersey and both of us return home and have to work summer jobs. When I asked her if she'd date anyone while we were apart, she said she has some friends there, but nothing serious.
Does that mean she'd have sex? What should I do?
Mia: Dude, summer hasn't even started and you're already sweating a girl? Chill. You're young. Keep your options open. You never know what kind of summer lovin' may happen. If your relationship is meant to be, pick it up again in the fall.
Steve: Give her a daily call. If she dates some guy, shrug it off. If you get jealous or try to control, odds turn against you. Tell her you'll welcome her back to school with a present. Remember, romance is a big coaster ride: You'll be up, down, riding fast and braced for happiness or misery. Kind of like life itself.
Q: I have a question. My sex drive increases in the summer. I've been noticing for a while now that it increases in summer and decreases in the fall.
Can you tell me why this is?
Steve: Ah, the fall. More clothes being put on. Less vacation. Harder work. Chillier weather. Just like bears, humans prefer spring and summer. Listen to Selena Gomez's "Naturally."
Mia: Science may not back this up, but think about it: During the summer, we can spend hours on a beach with hundreds of nearly naked people. All that exposed, sweaty skin may be enough to fire some into sexual overdrive.
Plus, summer is vacation time. So, with more time to relax, it's only natural that someone's thoughts might turn to good ole summer lovin'.
Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of
answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.