Slut-shaming is a shame

Q: I'm sick of this whole slut-shaming business. What is the difference if I date a guy for three months and then have sex with him or if I do it the first time we get together? Why should I feel guilty? I think I'm choosy. But I feel like I ought to be able to have sex when I want to, regardless of how long I've been seeing a guy.

Steve: Slut-shaming is double-standard sexist drivel. When a guy gets laid, everyone congratulates him. It's good you're choosy, but if sparks fly right away, you deserve neither shame nor blame. Just make sure the sex you have is safe.

Mia: Listen up, hot mama. You're right. You can have sex whenever you want. But just because you are a free spirit, don't assume that the man you get naked with is one also. Having sex with strangers may be hot, but it's also risky.

Q: My girlfriend went snooping in my apartment and found some women's clothing I'd been hiding. Now she thinks I'm seeing someone else. It's actually my stuff. I sometimes cross-dress. I don't want to lose her, but if I tell her the truth, she will leave me. I'm screwed either way.

Mia: It's always better to tell the truth. But be nonchalant about it. Maybe she'll believe you and stick around long enough to get to know you better.

Steve: On her next visit, greet her at the door wearing a black jumper, silk blouse, pantyhose and 3-inch heels and shout, "Surprise!" If she runs away, she's not your kind of girl.