Can you say 'I love you' too much?
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of nearly a year and I recently said "I love you" for the first time. Before he said it (he said it first) he told me he doesn't want to start saying it "all the time" - wherein lies my dilemma. How often is too often? Do I say it every night before bed or only on special occasions?
Please help because I'm confused, and I'm worrying that I'm hurting him because I haven't said it since that night four days ago. I don't want to smother him or make him feel uncomfortable. - How Much is Too Much?
DEAR HOW MUCH: Not everyone is comfortable with verbal declarations of love, and your boyfriend may be one of them. Love is spontaneous, it's a feeling - not a mathematical formula. Only your boyfriend can tell you how often is too often for him.
However, if you are sharing a bed, you should be able to express yourself fully whenever you climb into it - and his reaction should be positive (if not reciprocal) when you do.
DEAR ABBY: I am far from flat-chested (I'm a happy B-cup), but you wouldn't call me "well-endowed." My question is: Why is it that friends and family members who have larger breasts constantly ask me if I would like some of theirs? I think it's rude and, quite frankly, embarrassing. I would never turn the tables and say, "I'm feeling a little skinny. Could I have some of your fat?" What do I say when asked?
- Perfectly Fine in Evanston, Wyo.
DEAR PERFECTLY FINE: A few responses come to mind . . . but none that I'd print in a family newspaper. My advice is to keep it simple and nonconfrontational. Smile and say, "No thanks, I'm happy just the way I am!"
P.S. In my opinion, a B-cup is well-endowed.
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