She wonders if wrestling with hubby is too quirky

DEAR ABBY: I'm the mother of three sons. I would sometimes play rough and wrestle with them, all in fun. Now that they're almost all out of the house, I find myself getting carried away with this type of play with my spouse. He was on the wrestling team in school, so I always lose. But he knows how to play without hurting me.

Is there something wrong with me for wanting to play so rough at times? He seems to enjoy it, but there have been times when I've walked away bruised. Otherwise, I'm an ordinary female who you'd never guess would love to wrestle. How many other women do this?

DEAR FEELING WEIRD: I don't have the figures, but some women like to wrestle as a form of foreplay. However, because it is leaving you with bruises, you and your spouse may be carrying the wrestling a bit too far. If it's not foreplay, but some form of competition, perhaps you should consider taking up another sport where you'll have a chance of winning sometimes.

DEAR ABBY: How does one politely but firmly turn down door-to-door salespeople?

DEAR NO THANK YOU: If this is happening regularly, the first thing to do is post a door sign that says "No Soliciting." When someone you don't know knocks or rings, don't answer it. If you get trapped into the sales pitch, when the person pauses for breath say firmly, "Not interested," and close your door. Remember, the person is not trying to make a friend; the person wants something. You do not have to tolerate rudeness.