DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Angie," and I have been happily married for 11 years. Angie has been working out the past couple of years and has achieved impressive results.
The problem is she’s consumed by an insatiable hunger to be thin, although she is already very much in shape. She talks nonstop about new diets and ideas for losing weight, even though I constantly compliment her. Why does she keep insisting that she needs to diet?
— Alarmed Husband
DEAR ALARMED: Your wife doesn’t see herself the way you do. This may be because she has low self-esteem, or she may have a condition called "body dysmorphia," in which a person can’t stop thinking about a perceived flaw in his or her appearance.
The person she should be talking with about her weight issues is her physician. I recommend you suggest it to her to be sure her preoccupation isn’t an unhealthy one.
DEAR ABBY: I’m a high school senior. My boyfriend has asked me to marry him and I said yes. My family keeps asking me if I’m "sure." Well, I want to be with him, but I don’t know about marriage. Please help me. I don’t want to make a big mistake.
— Confused Teen in Selma, Ala.
DEAR CONFUSED: If you are unsure if you want to be married, you agreed too quickly. What you need to do is take a little time to decide what you want to do with your future.