Question: Do relationships go through cycles? Like where they're good and then they go to OK, and then they go back to good? I've been in a relationship with a guy for three years and I'm beginning to notice this pattern. We're good for a while, weeks, months, whatever span of time, and then we have a bigger-than-normal fight, and then we're not so good for a while, but never more than a couple of weeks. Usually we're a little distant for about a week or less. We do have arguments like any other normal couple.
I have noticed that our bigger-than-normal fights usually coincide with other life stressors (school, work, psycho family). After a bigger-than-normal argument recently, I told my mom about this cycling. She told me it's not normal. But I guess seeing how a lot of other things go through cycles, I doubted her judgment and wanted to see what you think.
Answer: Cycles, normal, yes - but extreme ones, no. Responding to stress by erupting into a fight big enough to disrupt your rhythm for days or weeks at a time? That's normal, too, to a degree, but not in a good way and not out of necessity.