Q: No matter what I do in bed, my girlfriend's never satisfied. I've tried all kinds of stuff. She just lays there looking bored afterward. Sometimes, she even reaches for a vibrator. I've tried talking with her about it, but nothing works. Before we moved in together, we couldn't keep our hands off one another. We did it a couple times a week. Now when we have sex, it's like she's doing me a favor. Then she reaches for that thing again. It's not like I'm one of those guys who just takes. I want to give her pleasure, too. This is starting to get to me.

Steve: You may have to up your game and learn a few new tricks. In the meantime, if you want to pleasure her, why don't you take charge of the vibrator?

Mia: If she just wants to lay there and play with her vibrator instead of helping you figure out how to please her, then that's on her. Maybe it's time to move on.

Q: Am I wrong to expect my man to be with me on Christmas? Last year, he went to his baby mama's house on Christmas Eve, and I wasn't invited. I think I should have been, but she hates me, so that's not going to happen. He went back to her house the next morning to be there when the kids got up and opened their presents. By the time he got home, I was pissed off, and the rest of the day was ruined. What can I do so it doesn't happen again this year?

Mia: Yo, girlfriend, don't you have anything else to do besides sit around and get mad at the man for being a dad to his kids? You need to find some place to go on Christmas Day, so you're not waiting on him and getting yourself all pissy.

A much better move would be to visit your family on Christmas and plan a late-night rendezvous with your man. Dress up in sexy Santa lingerie (please tell me you have some), break out a bottle of champagne and get to ho, ho, hoing!

Steve: You say he's "my man." I'm not sure, but I applaud his devotion to his children. Christmas Eve belongs to you. Christmas Day belongs to them.

Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M@phillynews.com or S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107.