These days, sex runs rampant throughout TV, movies, and generally every aspect of pop culture. Some TV shows (Sex and the City was a personal favorite), songs, and plenty of movies go into far more detail than I care to on the topic of sex. (Remember the the good ol' days of the men and women slept in separate twin beds in the same room a la Bert and Ernie?)
When it comes to looking for a serious, committed relationship online, however, sex and your online dating profile should not mix. Consider the two like oil and water, pickles and ice cream, toothpaste and orange juice… you get the idea. In its most innocuous form, people imply sex in countless profiles that mention cuddling by the fire and massaging each other. While cuddling by the fire may indeed sound lovely, your profile is meant for you to talk about your hobbies and personality and what you're looking for in a partner. Who doesn't like a romantic cuddle session? All that line does is take up extra space on the page when you could be using that prime real estate to win someone over with your wit and charm. Plus, I don't know about you, but I personally wouldn't want someone I don't know creating a visual of me cuddling on the couch in my cozy pajamas and slippers. Creepy!
Then there is the other extreme: explicitly mentioning sex in your profile. Unless you're looking for a predominantly physical relationship (which, of course, some people are), this is an easy way to turn someone off who might otherwise have been interested in you.
Below are some real, unedited examples (taken from multiple online dating sites) of profiles where the "sex talk" is simply self-defeating:
This was the first line of a man's profile!
TMI, anyone? This line also makes the reader question whether he or she would be good enough in the intimacy and sex department.
It went downhill from here. I spared your eyes—trust me.
Is his name Christian Grey? If not, then this line is completely inappropriate.
This one starts out with such promise.
This is a more subtle, yet still pretty graphic, way of implying something sexual.
I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried! So wrong on so many levels. And if you're going to be that disgusting and politically incorrect, at least write it proper sentences!