Mia: Girl, of course you aren't wrong. You're in a bad spot — one you probably won't win. You can choose to trust your guy. What other choice do you really have?
Steve: This can work, but the key is learning every detail of what the strip-club visitors do. Tell your husband that nothing should be done illegally. Ask him specifically what he plans to do personally. And tell him that if he winds up with the cops, that could end your marriage. If he loves you as much as he likes the soon-to-be married guy, then he will make it a very safe event. If your friend insists on potential crime, then hubby must say no. If he says yes, then time for you to say goodbye.
Mia: Send him a friend request. I see nothing wrong with sending a friendly hello. It'll probably make his day!
Steve: The great thing about memory is that as years pass, so does the bad news. Do it and enjoy it, but pay careful attention. As the O'Jays have sung: "All the time they want to take your place, / The backstabbers (backstabbers) / They smile in your face / All the time they want to take your place …"