The June wedding season has come and gone, but this time of year is incredibly popular for weddings—just ask Brad and Angelina.
Last year I found out, during an event held by the Accessories Council, that autumn weddings are a new trend. Who knew? I also picked up some bridal trivia at this year’s Accessories Council bridal event (and some great ideas—see below). The longest marriage lasted 81 years and the largest wedding party—with a whopping 30,000 guests—took place in Jerusalem. In case you’re planning a wedding, or planning on attending a late summer do, here are six things you should know:
- It’s all about the long term and not only the party. NYC-based couples therapist and author of The Complete Marriage Counselor Sherry Amatenstein says to keep “reminding yourself that the wedding is ultimately for two people—you and your fiance. Nothing and no one else’s opinions truly matter. Set boundaries and remind people that while you welcome their feedback, they won’t be the ones up at the altar and you appreciate their respecting your decisions.” Good advice. And if you’re still too stressed, Amatenstein says to keep remind yourself that “The wedding is a party—the biggest one you’ve ever thrown—but the most important thing is what comes after. You will be sharing the rest of your life with your beloved.”
- Do double duty: If you find that you’re so busy doing everything else that you don’t have time to head to the gym, you might be happy to know that even the most basic wedding planning events can burn loads of excess calories. I asked the folks at Nautilus for some help in coming up with this infographic to break down some of the most intensive pre-wedding activities that also burn calories.
- Pare Down/Store Things: Even if you’re already living together before the big day, chances are that when you’re newly wed you’ll have loads of gifts and tchotchkes and not tons of space. Boxbee is a cool new luxury valet service (on a limited roll out with hopes to be nationwide) that takes care of your stuff while you’re trying to figure out what to keep in your newly combined household. Request the number of boxes you need, Boxbee delivers them for free (empty boxes are always free, there’s a cost for retrieval), then you catalog them on Boxbee.com, Boxbee comes and picks them up, and stores them in a nearby facility. When you want those items back, Boxbee delivers them directly to you. And if you have the opposite problem, trying to buy more for guests, consider trying Boxed.com, which is a new app for ordering goods in bulk. I went all out and ordered both Swiffers and garbage bags before houseguests arrived recently at considerable savings.
- Whimsical style is just fine: It’s still warm enough that you can add your own personal bit of zing to your bridal style. Colette Malouf has the most gorgeous bridal combs and hair accessories starting at under $100. If you’re a veil diehard, consider changing to a blingy comb for the dancing portion of the party. And if you’re not sold on heavy jewelry, Roman & Sunstone has some you’ll swear it’s real earrings worth checking out.
- Bling for the Bridesmaids: Time was that thank you gifts for bridesmaids had to be serious and meaningful. Today’s gifts are more thoughtful or downright silly. I’m loving these sparkly reusable straws from Straw Envy, which save teeth from stains and lipstick from smudging ($27.99). The GirlyGoGarter is another sassy idea, a wider-than-average garter with pockets for cell phone, lipstick, and cash ($34.99). You can also personalize them for a really cute and totally original gift. You might also want to treat your bridesmaids to pedicures on a pre-wedding girls night out. Duri Cosmetics’ Hot Tamale collection has a color called Chili Pepper which is the perfect pinkish red shimmer for toes. And check out Auburn Jewelry for customizable cufflinks for the groomsmen.
- Picture Perfect: We live in an Instagram world, but that doesn’t mean that classic wedding photos don’t have a place on every mantelpiece. Check out Lenox for classically elegant bone china picture frames.
Rachel Weingarten is a noted and quoted style expert, personal brand consultant, and former makeup . She’s a co-founder of becausestyle.com and the author of three nonfiction books including Ancient Prayer, out 9/14. Tweet with her @rachelcw or like her page on Facebook. Need help style-stalking your favorite look? Write to Rachel at email@example.com.