Sex advice: Wait a second, don't judge her sexual surprise

Q: I met this girl on OK Cupid and I've yet to find anything wrong with her. I like her, everything. But I noticed she took her profile down. Mine is still up. She and I had sex on our second date. When I went to pick her up, she surprised me by answering the door only in a thong. I wonder if she does this with everybody she goes out with? Other women I date aren't as easy to get in bed. She's a nice girl with a good job but I'm not sure what do I do.

Mia: Before you judge Miss OK Cupid, you need to take a look in the mirror. She wasn't the only one getting naked on the second date was she? If what you did was OK for you, why is not OK for her? Think about it. A guy is a stud if he's getting it in every chance he gets, but a woman who does the same thing is a slut. I can't get with that attitude in 2017. Get outta here with that.

Steve: Whether a woman seems easy to get into bed or not is irrelevant. Every one of us gets to decide. Maybe she's picky about who gets sex on second date. I bet most guys never get to bed with her. If virginity and number of lovers is an issue for you, you're gonna have a problem because the best women get the most attention.

Q: My friends, both men and women, say I have the worst approach in the world. I tend say negative things like "I can't imagine you being interested in me" and "I am a clumsy clod in romantic things." I have tried more positive stuff but it comes out dishonestly and the women know it. Do you have a set of lines you can lend me? Lines that impress women and make me attractive.

Steve: Ah, romance. It just takes a few right words and the woman falls for you, right? Wrong! Words will get a conversation going but it takes way more than that to have a romance. Here's the best approach: Think of any woman as a friend. Don't think in romantic terms. Being friends is how you get to know each other. You'll be more relaxed and more like yourself. My guess is you'll get more romance and -- the best part -- many more friends.

Mia: You want a line to pick a woman? Try this one: "Is there anything that I can do for you?" Ask it, mean it, and then do it. It might mean you have to cut her grass or else give a woman a foot rub. But trust me, after she gets over her surprise, she'll melt a little. Then, do what Steve says and work on just being friends.

Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.