Q: I'm multiorgasmic and it takes very little to get me off. The smallest little thing and I'm in a fetal position having aftershocks. Once I calm down, it's a while before I even want to be touched again. Me being hypersensitive is ruining it for my guy. Help!
Mia: Aren't you lucky! Lots of women would trade places with you in an instant. Is your man complaining? If not, don't worry about it.
Steve: I agree that getting one easy is a lot nicer that having a real hard time to get one. But you absolutely should discuss it with your guy so he doesn't hurt you accidentally.
Q: I just turned 32 and feel like I'm running out of time. I've had four or five really good love relationships, but each of them ended, from six months in one case to three years in another. I've seen a lot of websites that tell you how to attract more men or women, what to say, how to act, how to dress, etc. Would I be more successful if I went that route? Or is it all about plain luck to meet the perfect partner?
Steve: Is there a perfect partner? I mean, perfect means no mistakes, slipups, embarrassments, etc., right? Forget perfect. Think in terms of "really good" and "really awful." My advice is go ahead and read up on that website stuff, but don't pay a nickel because any site might advise you to do a bunch of stuff that isn't you. The problem with acting a certain way to win a partner is that it's going to end in failure if it really isn't you. So No. 1 thing is to be yourself. No. 2 thing is don't look for romance. Look for friendship. The more friends you have, the more chances you have of something evolving into romance. Finally, don't worry about your age. Friendship can start at any age and last forever.
Mia: Running out of time for what? Is your biological clock ticking and you're afraid of becoming less fertile? Whatever your issue is, you need to chill. Big time. Desperation isn't cute. As far as online dating advice, it's probably worth looking into. But you could probably get similar feedback from a brutally honest friend. My advice is to make sure you are hitting the gym regularly. Lose weight if you have to. Buy some new clothes. Join some new clubs. Start going to religious services of some sort. Make sure you are meeting lots of new people and eventually you will come across someone who likes you as much as you like them. Good luck.
Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or email@example.com.