Writer says dating in Philly 'proved leagues worse' than in New York
New York City is a cold, lonely place. While exuberant young 20-somethings are packing up their lives and moving to the Big Apple every day, some find themselves doing the complete opposite.
Jo Piazza is the author of a new novel titled Love Rehab. On Monday, Piazza published a piece for the NY Post that details her big letdown of an experience when it came to dating in cities teeming with young professionals like New York and Philadelphia.
The writer, who was born in Yardley, decided to make the big move to New York City upon graduating from the University of Pennsylvania. After nearly a decade of big city living, she found her love life waning with nearly nothing but wasted long-term relationships and a continuous cycle of bad dates. A bit of homesickness paired with the utter exhaustion she felt for New York's dating scene led Piazza to set her sights on the City of Brotherly Love.
Expecting to find better men in a more condensed area within the confines of her home city, the new Philly resident was disappointed to find that the pickings were no better. Piazza cites her time with a local political consultant as an example: “Women say men in New York are arrogant and full of themselves. When I asked this political consultant why he liked me, he said I fit two requirements: I was brunette and had a vagina.”
Her dating dilemmas continued after she had moved back to New York last July. Determined to start fresh after years of awful encounters, Piazza soon met her current boyfriend at an internet Week party. They have been dating ever since.
The Philly Post's Dan McQuade offers a different and personal perspective on the issue, pointing out what the article may have gotten right–and-wrong about dating in Philadelphia. He stated, "Based on anecdotal data from friends and sitcoms, dating is terrible everywhere. That’s part of the fun. Dating is an adventure. Adventures can be horrible and depressing. But who cares?"
And he's right. Without slamming Philly too much, Piazza acknowledges that no matter how big the dating pool, it’s important to make sure you're really putting forth an effort when it comes to meeting people. She admitted, “When I returned, I was determined to treat New York like a new city, not my decade-old stomping ground. I tried places I had never been and I hung out with new groups of people.”
I would say that goes for anyone trying to date in a metropolis like New York or Philadelphia. A dater's best strategy is only as good as their willingness to try new things and branch out.
You can read more about Jo Piazza's decade of bad dates and hopeless relationships in her new book Love Rehab.