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In-law is ruining her sex life

Steve and Mia also advise awoman who’s hubby wears diapers.

Q: My father-in-law, who lives with us, asked me if my husband and I were having sex because he said he hadn't heard any noises coming from our bedroom. I was caught off guard and didn't answer him. Ever since, I've felt uncomfortable when my husband and I are making love in our bedroom. I feel like my father-in-law is listening at the door. He's disabled and can't afford to live on his own. I resent him being in my house all day snooping on our sex lives. How should I handle this? I want to put him out, but my husband wouldn't stand for it.

Mia: Find a senior-citizen apartment that he can move into. Or make an in-law suite for him in the basement. It's time to get creative or else get used to a sexless marriage.

Steve: The question was improper and you were right to ignore him, but you shouldn't let it get in the way of your love-making. Tell him you enjoy your privacy and make arrangements from him to be downstairs or elsewhere when you want to get it on with hubby.

Q: I discovered a half-empty box of adult diapers hidden in the back of my husband's closet. When I asked him about them, he admitted that he enjoys the way they feel so he wears them sometimes. I guess this means he has a diaper fetish. He doesn't wear them openly. I don't even know when he wears them, but the thought of a grown man sitting around in a diaper disturbs me. I'm wondering if I should warn our kids. Help!

Mia: Just because your old man wears diapers, doesn't make him a pedophile. Try to get him to talk to you about why he likes wearing them. If necessary, see a professional counselor. Good luck.

Steve: As long as he doesn't ask you or the kids to change his diaper, I don't see a problem. Is this a fetish or just a passing fancy? That depends.