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He loved her, then not, now her again. Really?

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of 10 years, "Scott," and I separated last year. I was pregnant and hormonal at the time, and told him we would never get back together. We went a month without contact, then reconnected.

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DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of 10 years, "Scott," and I separated last year. I was pregnant and hormonal at the time, and told him we would never get back together. We went a month without contact, then reconnected.

While Scott was in the process of working things out with me, he had a girlfriend. He made it seem like not a big deal, but apparently it was more serious. He told her she was the love of his life and he didn't want to lose her, etc.

When our daughter was born five months later, he told me he was done with the other woman. They talked for a month after our baby arrived and then he cut her off.

I recently found some old messages between them, and my heart shattered all over again. Scott says it was all a joke and he never meant any of it. The text messages imply otherwise.

I don't know if I should take another break to clear my head, or wait until my heartache passes.

Please help.

- Emotional in the South

DEAR EMOTIONAL: If you were convinced that Scott has been completely honest, I doubt you would have searched his message history.

As to his relationship with the other woman being a "joke," I doubt she was laughing when - after hearing she was the love of his life and he didn't want to lose her - he announced it was over.

You appear to like drama. You brought this on when you told Scott the two of you would "never" reconcile.

I do think you should take a break until you are less emotional, because the choices you have made so far haven't been entirely rational.