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How to hang up on long-distance cheat?

She knows her boyfriend is cheating on her. Now she has to figure out how to leave him. (iStock photo)
She knows her boyfriend is cheating on her. Now she has to figure out how to leave him. (iStock photo)

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a long-distance relationship with "Victor" for several years. Recently I began to suspect he was cheating. What raised my suspicion was that I suddenly couldn't reach him on the weekends.

Last February when I visited him, I snooped in his phone. I found an email he had written to an old girlfriend in which he suggested that they plan their "next" rendezvous.

I plan on dumping him, but I don't know how to go about it. Should I write him a letter and confess that I snooped? My first inclination is to disconnect completely and say nothing.

I'm afraid to confront him because he is obviously a good liar. I'm afraid if I do, he'll make me doubt the evidence. . . . Trust me, he's that good!

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    DEAR CHEATED ON: Why any woman would stay with someone who is a practiced liar ("that good") is beyond me. My advice is to disconnect from him and say nothing. It should be interesting to see how long it takes him to notice your absence.

    When he does - which probably won't be on a weekend - tell him the romance is over and reference the email he sent his former girlfriend. Expect him to go on the offensive and try to make you feel guilty for having checked his cellphone. Don't buy it, and don't relent. Just be glad you found out now.

     

    DEAR ABBY: I don't know if you have addressed the issue of women and breast augmentation from the standpoint of noticing the work done, but I am trying to find a way to say "I noticed" without being crude or tacky.

    My wife works with a woman who recently had augmentation surgery, and we agree that the doctor did a very nice job. I have known her for years, and we're on friendly terms.

    How would I go about complimenting her on her new look? I don't want to say the wrong thing. Or should I just say nothing?

    - Enjoys the View in Phoenix

    DEAR ENJOYS THE VIEW: All you need to say is, "You look great!" and she'll get the message. Trust me.

    Dear Abby
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