They're divorcing over his 'platonic friend'

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my husband for 19 years. I offered his plumbing services to a married couple I work with. While he was fixing the problem, he became friendly with their adult daughter. Their relationship developed into something more and we separated. He ended their friendship and we reconciled.

Things were going great, but he has suddenly decided he can't live without her friendship and has decided to divorce me. He swears it's platonic, and hopes we can "still be friends"!

I feel betrayed on every level, especially by my husband, who was my best friend. Every aspect of my life, including my job, has been affected.

Have you any advice for moving past this without all of the anger I carry?

P.S. My husband and I still live together as "roommates," as this is all very recent, and we haven't figured out our living arrangements yet.

- Wronged in New England

DEAR WRONGED: I do not for one minute believe that your husband's relationship with this woman is strictly platonic, and neither should you. Consult a lawyer now, while you and your husband are still "roommates." I agree that you have been wronged, but for now hang on to your temper. You may need professional help for you to let go of your anger.

DEAR ABBY: My friend "Gigi" has a heart of gold. However, Gigi comes into my home when I'm not here and borrows whatever she needs without telling me. She feels free to go through everything - personal documents, my drawers and cabinets. When I tried talking to her about it, she became upset and started crying.

How can I get her to leave things alone without her having another meltdown?

- Invaded in Texas

DEAR INVADED: Does she have a key? If she does, ask for it back or change your locks. And when you know Gigi is coming over, place anything you would prefer this nosy woman not peruse out of sight or under lock and key. That way, you can reclaim your privacy without being directly confrontational.