Bad-news baby daddy won't leave her house

DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old daughter and her two young children live with me. She doesn't work, which is fine. I spent most of my life as a single mom, working long hours and not seeing my kids. My work has finally paid off, and I'm at a point where, while not rich, I can support my daughter and grandbabies.

The problem is the baby daddy. He has a history of drug abuse, theft and jail time. He works only part-time jobs, which he loses monthly. He gives my daughter nothing and treats her as if she owes him.

I don't want to support him, but he has moved in and won't leave my house. He won't even acknowledge that I told him to leave. I told my daughter, and she ignores me as well. My oldest son has offered to talk to them for me. I don't want to lose my grandbabies. They are my purpose in life. Please help.

- Furious in Pennsylvania

DEAR FURIOUS: Part of your problem may be the degree to which you enable your daughter. She needs to learn to be independent.

If Baby Daddy has lived with you for a while, you may need a lawyer to get him out. It is also troubling that the daughter for whom you provide food and shelter is ignoring you. You're treated this way because you don't assert yourself. Please do it before Baby Daddy impregnates her again and you have four people to support.

DEAR ABBY: I'm 27 and I have overly hot/sweaty hands and feet. When I was dating women, they wouldn't want to hold my hand.

I am entering a profession that will require lots of handshaking with potential clients. Do you have any suggestions?

- Sweaty in North Dakota

DEAR SWEATY: Yes! There is a product that can curb the excessive sweating (hyperhidrosis), but a doctor must prescribe it for you. Botox injections could also help, but they should be administered by a physician. There is also a machine used to treat this condition. Consult a dermatologist.