Snow-storm hookup turns frosty
They were snowed in together for two nights and he never even kissed her.
Q: I was all excited about getting snowed in with the new man I've been seeing. When he got here, we opened some wine, turned on a movie and sat on the couch. And that's it. There was no kissing. No snuggling. Just a good-night kiss when he went to sleep! He stayed over the next day and the same thing happened. I'm confused and let down. How does a grown man stay over at a woman's place and not try to have sex with her? This situation is making me doubt myself. I don't know if I should ever see him again. Please advise.
Mia: What part of "He's just not that into you" don't you understand? A heterosexual man who's into you would have been all over you during that snowstorm.
Don't overanalyze what happened. Don't blame yourself. Just move onto the next guy.
Steve: Perhaps he's a gentleman who wants to get to know you better. Maybe, even more rare, he's a guy who thinks women make excellent friends. But if you want romance, let him know next time you're together. He'll tell you. If he says no, stay pals. He could change his mind.
Q: One of my girlfriends has a crush on my husband. We were at a black-tie event recently, and I noticed how happy she got when he danced with her. Her whole face lit up. At one point, we were walking through the ballroom and I noticed that she had inserted herself between us. I know she's lonely and awkward, and she doesn't date much, but the way she's up in my husband's face makes me uncomfortable. We've been friends a long time and run in the same social circle. We see her out a lot. Should I say something to her or ignore it?
Steve: Let's tap the brakes a minute. Take a deep breath. If you have some evidence that your friend is trying to woo your husband - a mountain of late-night text messages or questionable photos - then, yeah, have at it. Otherwise, she'll deny it, the conversation will end awkwardly, and you'll both feel bad.
Your husband, on the other hand, might enjoy hearing about this hypothetical scenario.
Mia: Girl, please. Why create trouble? Ignore this thirsty dame. Obviously, she's hard up, otherwise she wouldn't be tagging along with you and your boo. But unless you think your husband is interested in her, forget about it. And don't mention your suspicions to him! No sense blowing up his head and making him think he's cute.
Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.