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Steve and Mia tackle a bisexual dilemma and a divisive stepson

Q: My girlfriend is bisexual and occasionally sleeps with other women, and I'm cool with that. But she just asked me if it's OK if she sleeps with another man. I'm not sleeping with anyone else. I just haven't felt the need. I'm not OK with her sleeping with a man. I'm thinking about telling her, but I don't want her to feel like I'm taking her freedom.

Q: My girlfriend is bisexual and occasionally sleeps with other women, and I'm cool with that. But she just asked me if it's OK if she sleeps with another man. I'm not sleeping with anyone else. I just haven't felt the need. I'm not OK with her sleeping with a man. I'm thinking about telling her, but I don't want her to feel like I'm taking her freedom.

Mia: Dude, if you don't want her to sleep with another guy, you're going to have to walk. It's not your place to try to be her prison warden. If she's into open relationships and you're not, you have to get to steppin'. I'm sure there are lots of bi-curious or bisexual women who would love to date a man who doesn't have a problem with their being with a female on the side. Good luck.

Steve: If you let her sleep with the goose, you have to let her sleep with the gander.

Q: My stepson has been sitting around the house all summer playing video games. He works just a few hours a week. My husband wants to take him on an expensive vacation and I'm livid. I think he has to earn it. He won't get another job. He's not in school full time. I think my husband should be pushing him to get into college, not let him be a bum. My husband disagrees. What should I do?

Mia: Girl, book a weekend away with your friends. Or else you could duke it out. But do you really want to? All that would do is create bad feelings. Think how much fun you'd have hanging down the Shore in a nice hotel suite. Sign yourself up for a spa treatment and forget those two.

Steve: Your husband has parental rights, wrong though they are. But since the boy lives with you, you have some say-so as well. Try not to let it damage your marriage but continue the discussion. Counseling for all three of you would help.