She hates restaurants & the feeling's mutual

DEAR ABBY: My social circle includes a woman who has problems in restaurants.

Something comes over her in this environment - either the waiter is ignoring her, the order is taking too long, she wants to tweak the menu to her liking, the cost is too high or there's a mistake on the bill. There is no end to it.

One night she didn't like the salad, so she picked up bits of it and tossed them on the table.

Needless to say, no one wants to go out with her anymore.

Her husband, however, is a great guy. When we mentioned this to him, he replied, "You've noticed it, too?"

Have you heard of this? What's wrong with her?

She is strong-willed in most things, but the restaurant scene is her extreme.

Any light you can shed on this would be most appreciated.

- Lost My Appetite in Indiana

DEAR LOST: Having never met the woman, it's hard to pinpoint what may be wrong. She may have OCD, be easily frustrated or be displacing anger or frustration about something else onto the servers, who cannot defend themselves.

Frankly, the woman sounds like a pain in the posterior, and because she makes a habit of making those around her uncomfortable, I'm having trouble understanding why you continue to socialize with them. Many people wouldn't.

Perhaps the husbands can arrange to see him socially without her being present.