She doesn't want to hang with boyfriend's ex

Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. We have a stable and trusting relationship. A few months ago, one of his best friends broke up with his girlfriend of several years. My boyfriend decided to help his friend by hooking him up with a girl he used to sleep with. The problem is that now his friend and this girl have become serious. The possibility of going on a double date with these two has me sick. I don't want to hang out with someone my boyfriend used to sleep with! Also, how can I respect his friend or the girl? She allowed herself to be passed along! How should I handle this?

Steve: Judge ye not. Were you a virgin when you met your boyfriend? One man's "passed along" is another man's treasure. Also, how do you know you're not already hanging out with someone your boyfriend has slept with? Here's what a grown-up does: Focus on your own relationship. Forget the rest. It's irrelevant.

Mia: You're secretly worried that your boyfriend is still attracted to her, aren't you? Don't be ashamed. That's a perfectly normal reaction. Ask your boyfriend how he feels about his former hookup these days. Is he still attracted to her?

Hopefully, he'll tell you he's completely over it and that it's all about you now. She's the one who will be feeling awkward around you. You got him. He just had sex with her, then passed her to his friend. She's not going to want to double date with you and your man any time soon.

Q: My girlfriend and I have been together since high school. I really love her, but here's my problem. She's a virgin and does not want to have sex until marriage, and doesn't want to marry until she is out of college. I've wanted us to have sex for a while now and don't know what to do. I know someone who would do it with me, but I would feel bad about cheating. What should I do?

Mia: Is she worth the wait? If not, dump her and hook up with the sidepiece you've been eyeing. If she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, I suggest you start saving up for an engagement ring. Maybe by the time you can get it, she'll have graduated.

Steve: If she can get through college without losing her virginity, it's a miracle.

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