Why do women expect the man to pay for everything?

Q: I AM ONCE again a single man (age 64) . . . and I am new to the dating scene. I have been quite surprised by the expectations of the women I have dated in the past couple months. I'm thinking that when a man pays for a date, it is a gift, not an obligation. These women not only expected the man to always pay for everything, they made it quite clear that it was an entitlement for them. Dating can be very expensive these days. When is it appropriate for dating expenses to be shared, and what would be the best way to openly discuss this subject with a partner?

Mia: Don't go into the dating scene expecting women to help finance your efforts. That's not cool. If you ask a woman out, you should expect to pay. If you can't afford expensive restaurants, take your dates to inexpensive places. Or else you can treat your dates to an afternoon movie matinee or go to a park for a nice stroll. After you've gotten to know each other, most women will offer to pay half of a restaurant bill or maybe pick up the entire tab. If she doesn't, that's a huge red flag. If the woman you're seeing never pulls out her wallet, that tells you volumes about her willingness to share. If that's a deal breaker, then move on.

Steve: If you invited her to your home for a meal and a bottle of wine, would you present her with a bill afterward? Of course not. Same thing if you ask her out. As Mia notes, once you know each other better she'll likely offer to share or make you dinner without presenting a check.

Q: My boyfriend and I recently joined a webcam site and put on an XXX-rated show. I really enjoyed it. I felt really free and turned on. I think he liked it too. Do you see any harm in this?

Mia: Only if you decide to run for public office.

Steve: Or if you have kids and they see it. One of Steve & Mia's Rules of Romance is: Never write, record or video anything you wouldn't want the world to read, hear or see.