He's clothes'd up to her intimacies
DEAR ABBY: I met a guy four months ago. We like each other's company and spend nights together, but when we're intimate, he keeps his clothes on - boxers and all. Over the past two years he has lost almost 100 pounds. He looks great now - healthy and toned. I don't feel comfortable taking my own clothes off when he doesn't.
This isn't exactly a deal breaker for me. I just would like him to be comfortable with me. Should I address this with him, and if so, how? Or should I just leave it be for now?
- Awkward Situation in Georgia
DEAR AWKWARD: It's apparent that he still has body issues having to do with his extreme weight loss. If you know him well enough to spend nights at his house, you should be able to communicate with him about sex on a mature level and tell him that the experience would be more satisfying for you if there was less between you when you are in his arms.
DEAR ABBY: My fiancée and I work full time. We are trying to save for our wedding and a deposit for a house. The trouble is, after paying rent, bills and day-to-day expenses, we are left with next to nothing.
I played poker when I was in college. A few months back, I decided to pick it up again and found a group of people who like to play. Since then, I have been playing four hours two or three nights a week, and it has generated an extra monthly income of $1,000 to $1,500.
There are nights my fiancée wants me to stay home. She says if I had a part-time job, she would understand why I couldn't stay home on the days she asked. But to me, poker is a part-time job. I play the same set schedule every week. What do you say?
- All-In in Virginia
DEAR ALL-IN: Assuming that the games in which you are participating are legal, I see nothing wrong with what you're doing. Because your fiancée feels lonely when you're not with her, suggest that she do something with friends or take up a hobby. After all, you're doing this for the both of you, aren't you? And this "part-time job" isn't going to be forever.