Sunday, November 29, 2015

Mika Brzezinski: 5 mistakes women make when asking for raises


Morning Joe cohost Mika Brzezinski recounted her struggle for equal pay in her 2011 best-selling memoir, Knowing Your Value. On May 16 she’ll share lessons from the book at the first “Know Your Value” Conference for Women in Hartford, Connecticut (find out more and register here). “I want to reach women who have never had that conversation role-modeled for them,” says Brzezinski. Ahead of the conference’s kickoff this week, she reveals the five mistakes women make when asking for raises:

1. They apologize before the conversation even starts, beginning the conversation with something like, “I’m sorry if this is a bad time, but…”

2. They back into the conversation with lots of reasons why they “need it,” instead of what they should talk about: why they deserve more money.

3. They don’t think they are worth it, and this seeps out into their presentation and what they say.

4. They don’t communicate effectively and clearly.

5. They wait until the situation is so bad that they’ve actually become angry about it.

Bonus! Brzezinsky reveals the five habits of highly successful women:

1. They are aggressive and proud of it. They actually make this into an attractive trait.

2. They work hard and they don’t talk, whine, or brag about how hard they’re working—they just go get it done.

3. They have the confidence to actually help other women in a real and tangible way. Remember: this has a way of coming back around.

4. They are perfectionists, but also don’t mind things getting messy—really messy. On the same note, they don’t feel entitled or “above” some of their responsibilities.

5. They do not apologize for what they are asking for under any circumstances. They never use the words “I’m sorry.”

What are your strategies for getting ahead in the workplace?


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