Anonymous in Perry Hall, Md., writes:
I’m a young woman who has never married. Divorce is very common in my family. My parents, my two siblings, and six of my seven cousins have been divorced, and most of these people are now in their second or third marriages. My non-divorced cousin has never married because she, like me, is fearful that she would ultimately end up being divorced. Do you think she and I are being reasonable to shun marriage because so many of our relatives have been divorced?
No! Your (and your cousin’s) likelihood of a successful marriage has nothing to do with your relatives unless they played a major role in causing their divorces (drinking too much, having affairs, etc.), and you emulate them. Which you’re not going to do, of course. And if you feel that some of them were the victims in their divorces, what does that have to do with you? You’re not going to marry anyone like their ex-spouses.