DEAR ABBY: I was a single mom for most of my teenagers' lives. We have never been financially stable, and lately things have hit an all-time low.
I am prone to bouts of depression. I remarried last year, and my husband unfortunately does not understand or tolerate the depressions. He feels I should just "get over" things. He also doesn't believe in anti-depressants. It got so bad I attempted suicide last weekend. My husband said my doing that was abusive to him.
My medical-aid funds are more than half used up. For me to see a psychiatrist will take a huge chunk out of it. If I do it, my family will miss out on medical care should the need arise later in the year. Is it selfish to try to hang onto what is left of my sanity?
- On the Edge
DEAR ON THE EDGE: That your husband chooses not to recognize that depression is an illness - one that's treatable - is a reflection of his ignorance. That he would tell you that your attempted suicide was abusive to him suggests that he is more concerned with himself than he is with you.
You have teenage children who need their mother. Trying to hang onto what's left of your sanity and get the medications you need isn't selfish - it's sound thinking. If not for your sake, please seek help now for theirs.
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 12-year-old girl. I have one small question. I really wanna know why girls don't like each other that much. Many girls at my school are really mean. I wish I knew the answer to why girls are like that. Do you know why?
DEAR CONFUSED: Girls your age are mean to other girls for a variety of reasons. Some of them may be acting out because they are having problems at home. They may do it because they are jealous or to make themselves feel more important (a power trip). They behave this way because they haven't matured enough to have developed empathy, an ability to be sensitive to the feelings of those they are hurting.