Sleeping with his aunt is stressing him out
DEAR ABBY: I am under a lot of stress, but the woman I am with doesn't know it. I am 17, and I have been sleeping with my 38-year-old aunty. She's married and has three children. She's my mum's sister. We've slept together seven times and we can't stop doing it. I think I'm in love with her.
I know this is wrong. I need advice. Please help.
- Lovesick Teen in the U.K.
DEAR LOVESICK: Being "in love" shouldn't cause stress; it should relieve it. You know what you are doing is wrong, and you must be the adult and end this relationship. If you don't, it will bring heartache and turmoil to you and the rest of the family. By having an adulterous and incestuous affair with you - her nephew and a minor - your aunt is behaving like a sexual predator.
DEAR ABBY: I am getting married in October, and my fiance, "Brad," and I are having trouble seeing eye-to-eye on the name-change issue.
Brad's family is originally from the North, and my family is from the South. He and his family are convinced that I should drop my maiden name, keep my middle name and take his name as my new last name.
However, the women in my family have always kept our maiden names, added their new husband's last name to theirs and dropped their middle names.
This is about the only thing Brad and I can't seem to agree on. What can I do when my mother says one thing and my sweetie says another? With your years of experience, I hope you can steer me in the right direction.
- Brad's Bride in South Carolina
DEAR BRIDE: It's your name. So do what you are most comfortable doing, because it's the name you will have to carry 'til the day you die (or divorce).
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