Monday, October 6, 2014
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She's 27, never been kissed & wants a guy

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 27-year-old woman who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. I was never interested in romance or having a significant other. I felt strong being independent and taking care of myself. Now that I have a degree, a career and a house, I feel ready to try to let a man into my life.

I met a really nice guy a month ago. "Brian" and I have gone out several times and have a lot in common. He's a gentleman, and he says he's willing to wait for me.

I have been having a difficult time letting myself be physical with him. Even hugging is uncomfortable for me.

I feel abnormal. I don't know if I'll be this way forever or get more comfortable the more I know him. I'm afraid Brian - and most men - won't be willing to wait that long. I'm afraid if I don't move faster I'll lose a great guy and never get another chance. What do you think?

- Blocked in Boise

DEAR BLOCKED: Being intimate with someone because you're afraid you'll lose him or it will be your last chance is the wrong reason. I think that the sooner you talk with a licensed therapist about your lifelong shyness and discomfort, the quicker you can understand the reasons for it and overcome it. If Brian is the right man for you, he will stand by you. But if he doesn't, you'll be able to more easily relate to someone else.

 

DEAR ABBY: I am planning my wedding in the fall. I have worked at my job for a year, and I haven't always been treated well by a few co-workers. I like a few of the people I work with, but I don't know if I can invite only them. What do I do?

- Wedding Planner in Omaha

DEAR WEDDING PLANNER: What you do is invite only those people you truly want to attend your wedding. It's not necessary to apologize for it or to explain why. If you feel you must give a reason, say that your guest list is limited because of financial constraints. It's far more tactful than saying they are being excluded because they are rude, awful people, and you don't want them anywhere near you on such an important occasion.

Dear Abby
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