Steve and Mia: Why am I just a booty call?

Q: My dealings with men always follow the same pattern.  They chase behind me in the beginning, then after me and him get physical, the problems start. It’s like I have to become the aggressor with them. I never hear from them on the weekends. The only reason they come over is for sex. I’m the one texting first. I’m the one asking them out. When I ask why, they say it’s not me.  But I know I’m a side piece again. They’re interested in the beginning, just not in the end. What am I doing wrong? I really would like to be treated special for a change.

Steve: You have a bad pattern here. To be treated special  you have to be special, or at least pretend. Trying waiting and make the dogs come to you.

Mia: Sit your silly behind down and stop chasing men. If they don’t text you first, then don’t you text them.  Only respond to their texts and don’t always do it immediately. If you get the feeling that they’re only interested in you for sex, shut the candy store down with the quickness. Don’t give them even a little piece, no matter how much they beg —and they will beg.  You can’t make anyone fall in love with you but you can slow down the mad dash to the bedroom. Keep your panties on and make the guy take you on actual dates if he wants to see you. Then maybe he’ll see that you’re a real person and someone worth spending time with outside of the bedroom.


Q:  My wife had a lesbian affair with a friend but insists she’s straight. Should I believe her? She says it was a one-time thing.

Mia:  Was it just a drunken lesbian encounter or a long-term relationship? You didn’t give us much to go on. If you love her and want to stay married, you’re going to have talk your way through this. Maybe see a professional counselor together and separately to sort things out. Good luck.

Steve: Maybe you can half believe her. If it’s one and done, it shouldn’t be a big deal.