His desperate desire is scaring off coeds

Q: I've had nothing but bad luck with women, and this fall is my senior year in college.

One of my friends said my problem is that I seem too desperate to make romance a success, that I scare women off.

Is this true?

Steve: Hopefully, you will learn about romance what I learned when I was a college senior: Don't think about it, ever.

Think only about friendship.

Can you be friends with a woman without sex? Do you think women are as good as or better than men?

If the answer to each is yes, then you are on the right track.

Let that come out, and the women will find you way more interesting than than they do if you act desperate.

And never underrate friendship. I've been pals ever since with three of the Ps I met in college decades ago.

Only Peggy McCoy of Winterset, Iowa, is missing, and that was my fault, especially since she transferred to Ryan Howard's college.

Oh well, you can't always hit a home run.

Mia: Steve, the letter writer isn't looking for friendships. He wants to get laid.

His overwhelming desire for sexual connection is scaring his classmates off.

I can't say that I blame them for steering clear and keeping their virtue intact.

Most sane, emotionally healthy women don't want to be used solely for some randy guy's sexual release.

Q: One of my friends is newly divorced and starting to date again.

The man she is seeing a bit younger and suggested she needed to do a little grooming down there.

Is it appropriate to request a cleanup in the nether areas? Or is that off limits?

Mia: Dude did that woman a favor. It's easy to get lax when you've been out of the game for a while.

I certainly hope she follows his advice.

If she doesn't want to pay a pro, maybe she can enlist the help of her new guy.

Steve: Not a problem, and I'm with Mia on this one.

However, I would not assume that every guy shares the same view. Some like lush, some fully shaved, and others, various styles in-between.

As a general rule, if you really hit it off with a guy, find out what he likes before you start your mower.

Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.