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Save the S&M for Penthouse, angry reader says

Editor's note: This week, we respond to reader letters: Q: I'm convinced you either make this [all] up or you pick the most obnoxious, dumb questions. Top or bottom in anal sex? Really? We've fallen so far down the drain it's embarrassing. Can't you save that [stuff] for Penthouse or something? It's really disgusting for a family paper . . . Sorry, but I think you're both slobs.

Editor's note: This week, we

respond to reader letters:

Q: I'm convinced you either make this [all] up or you pick the most obnoxious, dumb questions. Top or bottom in anal sex? Really? We've fallen so far down the drain it's embarrassing. Can't you save that [stuff] for Penthouse or something? It's really disgusting for a family paper . . . Sorry, but I think you're both slobs.

Steve: Not dealing with sex is a bad idea. Communication improves all facets of life.

Mia: Yo, potty mouth. We had to clean up this mess before we could even publish it in our family paper. If you don't like reading about anal sex, move on, prude.

And then there was this about our advice to a woman whose husband had been asked by a colleague for a ride to a colonoscopy:

Q: One of the most aggravating things about a colonoscopy, cataract or cosmetic surgery is that the doctors won't let you take commercial transit home even if you've been in a recovery room for an hour or more. Some even insist a friend bring you to the hospital and wait in the office.

The friend can be 16 or 80, that's OK, but a cab is out. They all think everyone has a driver at their beck and call. This is a huge deterrent to getting these procedures in the first place. Especially in the winter, when a friend will cancel at the last minute, after all the preparation, and a cab won't.

A limo driver, by the way, is just a cabdriver in a uniform.

Mia: My point was that the letter-writer's husband shouldn't be driving his colleague to her colonoscopy appointment in the first place. Singles need to cultivate a special friend to rely on for medical emergencies. But it shouldn't be someone's else husband. Wives resent that.

Steve: Helping out from time to time is fine, but these three need to chat to find out where each stands in terms of hubby/gal-pal friendships.

Another reader challenged our advice:

Q: I think you guys may have dropped the ball on this one. Yes, the possibility of orally transmitted HIV is low - and the possibility of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases is high - without using protection. However, if the two are in a relationship, why not suggest that they get tested for everything? If cleared, agree to be in a monogamous relationship. Problem solved!

Mia: Good point, but a medical clearance won't protect you if your partner cheats.

Steve: "Oh, promises, their kind of promises, can just destroy a life . . . " Great show, good advice from Dionne Warwick.

Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of

answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.