What's with Wofford? Straight, gay or something in between

Q: I've always admired former U.S. Sen. Harris Wofford, but why in the world did he wait until age 90 to admit he was gay?

He's planning to marry a guy and, before his wife died, he was married to her for decades.

Was he a big fraud? This troubles me.

Steve: A lot of people think sex is two stops on the opposite sides of the highway. One hetero, one homo.

Wrong! It's not a highway, it's a hallway.

Human sexuality flows steady along the full hallway. Some men like only men. Some like men and women. Some like women, but aren't adverse to experimenting with men. And some like women only. Same story for women, too.

The majority calls itself "natural," but isn't anything you're born with "natural"?

I say, God bless Wofford for falling in love at 90. What this guy did for his country, dating back to the civil rights era, has earned him a long, happy life.

Mia: Wasn't it George Burns who said that "Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope?"

Wofford was a great senator and an even better man. I'm happy he's found love late in life. We should all be so lucky when we're his age.

Q: Steve, I just read the advice you gave to a woman with a boyfriend who isn't ready to get married because he's taking care of his mother who suffers from dementia.

You basically told this woman that her boyfriend who is stepping up to care for his mother is "lame" and she should find someone better. So, what? Find a guy who doesn't care about his mom?

Well, Steve you sound like a real jerk. Based on this and the other articles I read, you have no business writing for an advice column. You should write an apology to everyone you've ever advised and then quit. Go back to doing whatever it is you do best. Get a job you can handle like delivering pizzas or working in a warehouse or something.

Mia: Dude, rage much? Lighten up. When you're dating, you're supposed to look for what makes you happy. If you're the kind of person who really requires 100 percent of a guy's attention and he's busy with other things such as caregiving for a sick mom, then you have to move on.

Steve: Oh, my! I hope you're not an easy gal to con. Go back and look. I wasn't down on him for helping his mom. I was down on him for using his mom's care as an excuse. Surely you don't think a man can't marry if he's caring for his mom. It's a classic excuse when he wants to keep a bed partner without making a commitment.

Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of

answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.