She's once, twice, three times a lady who balks at husband's sex demands

Q: My husband could have sex three times a day every day. I'm a once-a-week type. He gets really angry that I don't like him grabbing on me. But it's annoying. If he would stop trying to force me to have sex, maybe I might even come on to him. How can we get more in sync?

Steve: Compromise! That word describes a good marriage better than, well, the phrase "good marriage" because some men believe that term equals: Male dictatorship.

Your husband needs to know what works for you and what doesn't and to respect and honor that. And you need to respect his needs as well. You could compromise at twice a week. And his other needs might be solved online, with your permission.

Mia: Girl, stop bragging. Oh I'm so hot my man can't keep his hands off me. I know a lotta women who would love to switch places with you. My question for you is, what's turning you off? Are you harboring resentment toward your man?

Maybe you're so much in mommy mode you've subconsciously pushed the sex kitten thing way to the back of your closet. My suggestion is to get into the habit of not pushing your husband away sexually. Sometimes, that's all it takes to get revved up.

You've got to keep trying. Whatever you do, don't give up on sex or your relationship. If you need professional help, a good place to start is aasect.org, the website for the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists, or call 202-449-1099.

Q: My wife is committed to voting for Hillary Clinton as president. She gets angry at me because I'm a man and the vast majority of white men are against Hillary. She says it's bias. That may be true, but it's also true that a lot of women for Hillary are lesbians. Is that worth spreading around? I haven't made up my mind who to vote for, but we love each other, and I want to end these political arguments. Can you help?

Mia: Dude, vote for whomever you choose, but hopefully you'll come up with a better reason than because that's who the other white guys are voting for. If you have a list of legitimate reasons that you can articulate, I'm sure your wife will respect whatever choice you make. If not, your problems are bigger than politics.

Steve: When you live in a democracy, don't worry about how every voter thinks. Worry only about how you think. Did you read enough about each candidate to find out which one you agree with most? That's how to be a good citizen, whether straight, gay, lesbian or all genders rolled into one.

Steve: P.S. I need to make a correction. Last week I quoted a lyric from a song written by Paul Rodgers of Bad Company. But Rodgers wasn't with Bad Company when he wrote the song, he was with Free, his first group, and that's who deserves credit.

Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of

answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.