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I AM A bisexual female, age 25. I've been in a relationship with a man for a year and am feeling the need for a woman again - and wondering, how will I ever commit to marriage? I'd like to settle down and have a family eventually, and this is bugging me.

Q: I AM A bisexual female, age 25. I've been in a relationship with a man for a year and am feeling the need for a woman again - and wondering, how will I ever commit to marriage? I'd like to settle down and have a family eventually, and this is bugging me.

Mia: It sounds like you're obsessing and worrying about something that you aren't even ready for yet. Why not let your heart lead you to what's right for you? Down the road, you may be lucky enough to fall in love with an open-minded individual who doesn't mind your need for another person.

Polyamorous relationships are about being open and accepting, not shutting down your options. That's definitely something you should explore. If that doesn't offer any comfort, maybe counseling is in order to help you sort through your feelings.

Steve: The problem here isn't gender. It's numbers. Speaking for the majority of humans, you cannot love two at a time and make it work.

Is third the charm or harm?

Q: I've had a great relationship with my new boyfriend for four months, but he made a suggestion that's knocked me for a loop. He'd like to try a threesome. Not with a woman, which I'd never allow, but with a man. He says I can pick him out the guy. In the past I did have a fantasy or two about this, but now I fear it could ruin things. Plus, does this mean my new boyfriend is bisexual?

Steve: Maybe yes, maybe no. Key here is how your boyfriend respects your desires. If you flatly say no to threesomes and he keeps insisting, then I'd suggest finding a new boyfriend.

Mia: Call his bluff and bring home some big, strapping dude. Someone the total opposite of him and preferably at least 6 inches taller and 50 pounds heavier.

You don't have to go through with actually having a threesome, but it would be fun to see how your man responds. Afterward, you can joke about it. And also open up to each other - share how you really feel about his asking you to introduce another man into your sex life.

Between them, Steve and Mia have logged more than a few decades in the single-and-dating world. They're also wise to the ways of married life. They don't always agree, but they have plenty of answers. Contact them at S&M c/o Daily News, 801 Market St., Philadelphia, PA 19107 or steveandmia@phillynews.com.