Steve and Mia: A chow downer

Q: I've been dating a woman for about a year now and we're headed toward marriage. Everything is nearly perfect except in one area: Cooking. My love enjoys cooking but is terrible at it. I have suffered in silence - it's usually only once a week - but if we marry, I can't imagine spending my life eating her cooking. I'm not very good at it myself, but I can make meals that are edible, at least. She really enjoys being in the kitchen, and I know she'd be crushed if I told her how bad her cooking is. I don't want to mess this up. Any solutions?

Mia: Are you kidding me? That's not a problem. Sign that woman up for a cooking class. Better yet, enroll in a couples cooking class, since you're not much better than she is. La Cucina at Reading Terminal Market is a good start.

Steve: Take a wine class, too, and you'll have even more fun.

Q: I'm a college student who recently met an older guy at a club. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere private with him, and I said OK. While we were making out in his car, I noticed that he had on a wedding ring. It freaked me out. He told me he was in an open marriage, but I said no thanks and went back inside to find my friends. They said I was stupid, since he was fine and had been buying drinks for all of us. But I don't do married men - though I might make an exception since he said he's in an open marriage. What do you think?

Mia: Ask his wife. She'll tell you if her husband's really in an open marriage or not.

Steve: No upside in messin' with the married men; lots of downside. Odds of happiness are much higher with single guys.

Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. For answers email; S&M@phillynews. com or write: S&M c/o Daily News, 400 N. Broad St., Philadelphia, PA 19130.