Finally – you met someone great online! You went on a first date, and you kind of liked each other. Then you went on a second date, and you got those butterflies. You went on a third date, and thoughts of exclusivity started permeating your mind. When is it time to take down your online dating profile? Should it be after a certain number of dates? After you’ve had “the talk”? After you’ve changed your Facebook status to “in a relationship,” the tell-tale sign of something being “official” for most these days? Or, is unsubscribing from receiving online dating site emails enough?
In this day and age, when virtually everything we do is online, how you portray your relationship status to the world is almost as important as the relationship itself. No one wants to be on the receiving end of an email from a friend saying, “I don’t know how to say this, but your new beau/belle is still on OKCupid and appears to have logged in within the last 24 hours.”
I’m a firm believer in emailing and dating many different people initially to see who’s out there. But at some point, when you think you’ve found the right person, it might be time to scale back on your online dating life and start to enjoy your offline dating life. When you get to that point, unfortunately, there is no predetermined protocol as to when it’s appropriate to take down your profile, but there are two pieces of common sense that you should follow:
- Don’t log into the online dating site immediately after a date. Even if you didn’t like your date, try to show some respect by not logging in until the next day. That way, you’re not rubbing it in the other person’s face that you need to immediately check out your other options.
- When things start to get serious with someone – even before you’ve discussed your relationship status – it’s a good idea to minimize your online dating usage to give the relationship a chance to bloom.