Suspicious of her coworker who's dating her best friend

DEAR ABBY: My best friend, "Donna," and I are former coworkers. She divorced recently but has hooked up - and is shacking up - with a coworker of mine, "James." James and I work on the same shift every weekend. James invited a woman to the job for a lunch date. Should I say something to Donna? I'm not a fan of his because he seemed sneaky before the "lunch date." Donna says she's happy. We limit our conversation about him because I hate to bad-mouth him knowing how she feels about him. But I'm bothered knowing he didn't care enough to not let on to me about his infidelity. It's like he wants me to bring the bad news. I haven't, but I need to know how to proceed.

My husband says I should mind my own business to keep work stress-free. What is your advice?

- Hates Workplace Drama

DEAR H.W.D.: For now, I'm voting with your husband. One lunch date is not an affair, and you don't know what James' relationship with the woman may be. It could be innocent, so give him the benefit of the doubt.

However, if he continues to bring her around, I can see how you might want to ask Donna who the woman is. That's not bringing bad news; it's an innocent question.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I hang out with a group of six couples ranging in age from 24 to 74. One day, when three of us women went to lunch, I was complaining about the list of things that needed to be fixed in our home. My dear friend came up with a great idea that works very well, and I want to share it.

Once a month, a couple will host a party at their home. The wives prepare a covered dish, and we all bring any sort of beverage we would like, from tea to soft drinks, beer, and wine. The men all get to work on the problem until it's fixed, and then we laugh and eat and drink together. It's so much fun. We call ourselves . . .

- The "Honey-Dew" Gang

DEAR GANG: I love the concept, which proves not only that "many hands make light work," but also that honeydew is more than a melon.