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Her sixth sense says her friend's a child molester

Dear Abby: When I was 10, I faked an injury so I could quit playing soccer. I couldn't articulate why the coach made me uneasy. Later, it came out that he had molested dozens of girls.

DEAR ABBY: When I was 10, I faked an injury so I could quit playing soccer. I couldn't articulate why the coach made me uneasy. Later, it came out that he had molested dozens of girls.

Over the subsequent 20 years, those same instincts have screamed at me three more times - and twice I was proved correct. The third man to set off this alarm is in my social circle, along with his wife. Several of the couples in our group are starting families.

Should I say something and risk destroying an innocent man's reputation and the group dynamic, or remain silent and risk the kids being around a predator? I don't have a shred of evidence, just a gut-punch feeling.

I never said anything about the prior abusers, but I don't sleep well wondering if I should have.

- Nose Like a Bloodhound

DEAR NOSE: I'm sorry you're having sleep problems, but the solution to them is not to accuse someone about whom you have no proof. To falsely accuse him could destroy both of you, and I don't recommend it.

DEAR ABBY: I have asked my husband to treat me as an equal, but it falls on deaf ears. He refuses to help with any of the housework, and he has the freedom to go when and where he pleases. I'm only allowed to go to school or work; otherwise I must take the kids with me. He's very controlling and, in the past, when I have threatened to leave, he said he would kill himself. He is verbally and emotionally abusive.

I no longer love him and want a divorce, but I'm scared of what he'll do if I ask for one. Is there an easy way to ask for a divorce?

- Wants to Disappear

DEAR WANTS TO DISAPPEAR: There is no easy way to ask a spouse for a divorce, particularly one who is controlling and verbally abusive. If you are worried about him killing himself, please don't. From your description, he is too selfish and self-centered ever to do that. However, if you are afraid that your husband might harm you, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline, at 800-799-7233.