DEAR ABBY: When I was a child, my parents skipped my elementary-school graduation. For that matter, everyone did. My grandfather had just died, so Mom was mourning his loss. Fast-forward a few years - nobody attended my junior-high graduation, either. Granted, Mom had a couple of stitches in her nose because my brother had accidentally hit her with a golf club the week before.
Well, my younger siblings just graduated from elementary school, and my parents have again skipped the event due to their work schedules. I'm 26 now, and a long time has passed since they disappointed me, but I guess I haven't ever truly forgiven them. After all, these are once-in-a-lifetime milestones for a child, right?
Am I justified in feeling anger toward my parents for deciding to miss not only my graduations, but also those of my younger siblings? - Reliving It in California
DEAR RELIVING IT: How has your relationship with your parents been otherwise? If they have always been loving and supportive in other ways, then perhaps you shouldn't be so hard on them. Frankly, I think that multiple graduation ceremonies - while they may make cute photo-ops - dilute the importance of the one from high school. If you want to "do something," it would be more constructive if you made a point of attending your siblings' graduations in the future.
DEAR ABBY: I'm hoping you can resolve a disagreement between my wife and me. She insists on placing knives in the drying rack with the sharp ends pointing up. I insist this is a safety issue and the knives should be placed pointing down (or dried immediately). My wife counters that this will dull the points and that drying with a towel will dull the blades. Can you help resolve our disagreement?
- Looking for Resolution
DEAR LOOKING: Please stop arguing. I think the solution would be for your wife to be the person who puts the knives away.