DEAR ABBY: One of my childhood friends got married at a young age. She's now expecting and due in a few months. Every day she messages me on Facebook about something else her husband has done to cause her emotional stress. For example, a few weeks ago she found flirtatious erotic messages he had exchanged with another girl.
I want to help her because we have been friends for so long. We're both 19, and I feel I should know how to help her, but since I've never been married I don't know what to say. Any advice?
- Friend in Kentucky
DEAR FRIEND: What a sad situation. Your friend is married to someone who apparently doesn't want to be married - and it's open to question whether he will be much of a parent.
If she has family, she should talk to them about this because she may need their help soon. She should also make plans for how she will support herself and the child, because her husband appears to be a flake.
Please pass this advice along. And let this be a lesson to you about the importance of achieving independence before assuming the responsibility of parenthood.
DEAR ABBY: I am an addict of old classic movies and wondered how those handsome actors and beautiful actresses control their libido during passionate love scenes. Or is there more to it than appears?
- Film Buff in Encinitas, Calif.
DEAR FILM BUFF: Generally speaking, what an audience sees on the screen isn't an amorous encounter. Every gesture has been carefully choreographed. There may be a lot more acting than passion involved. (That's why it's called acting.) Remember, there is a director and there can be a crew of as many as 30 people standing around.
Of course, there are always exceptions - Liz Taylor and Richard Burton would be one of them, and Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie would be another.