DEAR ABBY: Once a year I type my ZIP code into a website to see who the registered sex offenders are in my area so I can be better informed and protect myself and my family. A photo, address and the charges attributed to the offender are posted on the site. My jaw dropped to the floor when I saw a man listed that I work with and see quite often. The picture looked recent.
I haven't said anything to him. I have known this person for five years and thought he was a good guy who respected women. I'd like to think that it was a onetime mistake and that he would never do it again. But would he?
Should I tell my teenage daughter who sometimes visits me in the office? Should I tell the other women who work here? If a co-worker knew this kind of information and showed it to me, I'd be grateful to know. What do you think I should do?
- Stunned in the City
DEAR STUNNED: Tell your daughter to keep her distance from this co-worker. But before you drop this bombshell at the office, you should first discuss what you have learned with your employer.
DEAR ABBY: I hope you can help with this etiquette question. My son and his wife believe that when you finish a good meal, you toss your napkin on the now-empty plate. They say this sends a message that the food was great.
I do not agree. Is placing a grubby napkin on the plate inappropriate behavior or is this legit?
- Not a Napkin-Tossing Dad
DEAR DAD: Your son and his wife need to reread the chapter on table manners in their etiquette book. When a meal is finished and the plate is empty, diners should place their used napkins on the table BESIDE their dessert plate. It should not be placed on top of a dirty plate.
P.S. If they don't own an etiquette book, it appears they could use one.