DEAR ABBY: A letter writer, "Where Are the Good Guys?" said she has trouble meeting men and told about seeking sexual partners on Craigslist. You answered that there were no good men there.
Well, I met my boyfriend of two years through a "no strings attached" ad I posted on Craigslist. So what if we were adults who wanted a casual relationship to start with? Don't judge everyone that way.
The reason that woman is having problems is, she's using the site to find sex partners when she really wants more. She needs to look in the "relationship" section or on a relationship site. Don't blame men for wanting to have sex when that's what she's advertising.
- Happily Coupled in Omaha
DEAR HAPPILY COUPLED: I did not mean to imply that there are no good men on Craigslist. My concern was that the writer was looking for a meaningful, lasting relationship in a category where people look for casual sex. Others were quick to offer their views:
DEAR ABBY: I'm a female, 59. I have two very good men friends in my life, and I met them both online. There are men of quality out there. You just have to be careful and read between the lines. Abby, online personals are the new "bar scene."
- Donna in Missouri
DEAR ABBY: It is possible to find a true partner online if you are dedicated and serious. I subscribed to a dating service 3 1/2 years ago and met a wonderful woman on the site. We are married now and expecting our first baby.
- Happy Husband in Miami
DEAR ABBY: I'm a "good guy," and there are many other guys like me. If she would put in the time and effort to talk to one of us, get to know us, she will find what she's looking for. I am so sick of women saying they want a nice guy and then running in the opposite direction. Her words say one thing, but her actions say something else.
- Out Here Waiting in Cleveland