Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Female veterans deserve salutes, too

A military woman doesn´t get the respect she deserves. (iStock photo)
A military woman doesn't get the respect she deserves. (iStock photo)

DEAR ABBY: I am a Navy veteran who served four years as a Seabee. I was one of the first women to be assigned to a combat unit, and I am proud of my service. However, I dread it when Veterans Day rolls around. Why do people assume that because I'm a woman I am not a veteran?

Two years ago, when I went into a restaurant that serves veterans a free meal, the man in front of me was asked if he wanted a veterans' menu. He declined. The hostess did not ask me if I needed one; I had to request it. Later in the meal, the manager went to each of the tables speaking to the veterans, but skipped mine.

Today, many women serve, and it should not be a stretch that some veterans are female.

- Overlooked in Lexington, Ky.

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  • DEAR OVERLOOKED: I hope you realize that what happened occurred because of these people's ignorance, and it wasn't personal. Women have officially been part of our military only since World War II.

    Many veterans wear hats or other items that identify what branch of the service they were in. Wear an insignia on Veterans Day. If you do, it will draw attention to the fact that many women serve in the military, which might be helpful to other female veterans. Thank you for your service to our country.


    DEAR ABBY: My wife insisted that you can text anyone anytime - day or night. I feel you shouldn't text after a time when you wouldn't call someone. I say if you don't need an immediate response, send an email.

    - Polite in Katy, Texas

    DEAR POLITE: I don't think there are hard-and-fast rules of etiquette regarding texting - yet. But common sense would suggest that if people suspect they "might" disturb someone by texting, then they should refrain. Of course, recipients who don't wish to be interrupted can put their cellphones on silent or turn them off.

    If the texts you're arguing about are intruding on time the two of you should be concentrating on each other, I see no reason why they shouldn't be responded to the next day.

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