Friday, October 9, 2015

No one man gives her everything she needs

DEAR ABBY: I´m never happy with just one partner.
DEAR ABBY: I'm never happy with just one partner.

DEAR ABBY: I'm never happy with just one partner. It's not that I want to go out and have a different man every night of the week - just some options. I'm currently in a polyamorous relationship, so seeing other men is OK. But my boyfriend is considering becoming monogamous again.

I crave something different from man to man and seek whatever the other one doesn't have. I have been with my fair share of guys, yet there doesn't seem to be one person who has all the qualities I need in my life. Should I just stay single and noncommittal forever?

- Fickle in Fort Wayne

DEAR FICKLE: Perhaps not forever, but for now, yes, until you meet someone who has more of the qualifications you're looking for. When you do, you may finally realize that in successful relationships some degree of compromise is always involved.



DEAR ABBY: I am 25. My husband is 50, and we have been married for three years. We are in a healthy relationship, raise his 12-year-old together and are trying for our own children. We have plans for the rest of our lives, are in good health, have regular checkups, and our life insurance and estate planning are in order.

But, Abby, sometimes I find myself worrying about his age. I cry when I contemplate spending a chunk of my life alone because I don't think I could ever love anyone else as strongly as I do him.

Is this normal? Should I tell my husband my feelings and remind him how much he means to me?

- Happily Married in Henderson, Nev.

DEAR HAPPILY MARRIED: Your feelings are normal for a woman who is fully invested emotionally in her husband. However, if your anxiety over the possibility of losing him increases, by all means talk with a licensed mental-health professional about it.

It would be a beautiful compliment to let him know you don't take his importance in your life for granted or the joy he has brought you. But don't be surprised if, when he hears you say it, he says the same thing back to you. You both are truly blessed.

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