DEAR ABBY: I'm a 23-year-old soldier in the Army, currently deployed overseas. I'm less than a month away from returning home to my husband. However, I have not been faithful to him during my tour. I have had sex with several people over here, and if that's not complicated enough, I appear to be pregnant.
I don't know what to tell my husband. I actually still kind of love him. Advice?
- Deployed and Pregnant
DEAR DEPLOYED: You need to make certain you are pregnant and that this is not a false alarm. Whether you are or not, you have some difficult decisions to make.
While it won't be pleasant, you and your husband are due for an honest conversation upon your return. If you both "still kind of" love each other, forgiveness is possible, and couples have been known to get beyond this and have successful marriages.
DEAR ABBY: The "rule" that white pants can be worn only from Memorial Day to Labor Day needs to be amended. I love my white pants. They go with nearly everything, and I almost cry when they must be stored away for another nine months.
Ridiculous! My proposal would be to extend the grace period so it begins on Easter Sunday and lasts until Halloween. How does that sound?
- Marilyn in San Marcos, Calif.
DEAR MARILYN: You will be delighted to know that according to Emily Post's Etiquette, 18th Edition, that old rule about wearing white no longer applies. What's important isn't the color, but the weight of the fabric.
Lightweight fabrics such as cotton and linen are acceptable during hot weather, and when the temperature drops, "winter whites" in wool, corduroy, silk and satin are common, although usually in off-white shades rather than a stark one.