How does a quitter quit his quitting?

DEAR ABBY: How does a person quit being a quitter? At 46, I have realized that this is what I am. I have quit everything - church, jobs, school. If I don't like a friend, I just drop the person. The same goes for books, exercise - everything! How do you stop the lifelong habit of quitting?

- Quitter in Charleston

DEAR CHARLESTON: I hate to see you give yourself a pejorative label. It's time to have yourself evaluated because it is possible you suffer from attention deficit disorder - and if you do, there is help for it.

If that's not the case, then start small, give yourself a goal you can accomplish and don't stop until you have reached it. It doesn't have to be anything complicated, but see it through. Then give yourself another, more difficult assignment and finish it.

Perseverance is a skill that can be learned. Each time you succeed, you will reinforce the idea that you can do it. The more you do this, the better you will feel about yourself, and it will be reflected in your work and social relationships.



DEAR ABBY: I am a married woman with several single friends. They are always eager to do things with me, but married life is a lot different from being single. I'd love to connect these friends, who don't know each other. I realize that making friends can be hard, and I'd love to help them in that way.

What would be the best way to do this? I don't have a lot of time to spend inviting everyone together and having them get to know each other. I'd like to do a quick introduction, then let them go have fun doing "single people" things. Is this possible?

- Unifier in Pittsburgh

DEAR UNIFIER: Absolutely. Call or email your friends and tell them that there are people you want them to meet because you think they'd enjoy each other. Then arrange a group lunch at a convenient location and introduce them. After that, if the chemistry is right, they'll become friendly.