DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have two beautiful, hardworking daughters we brought up as loving, respectful parents. Recently, "Kellie," 25, got tattoos covering her right arm, leg and ankle as well as her shoulders. They are visible unless she wears long sleeves and long pants.
This has ruined our relationship, because it shows how little she thinks of us as parents, and how disrespectful of our feelings she is to put the tattoos where everyone can see them. She knows we don't like tattoos, because we have mentioned it to her and voiced our disappointment when she got the first one on her ankle.
I can't sleep at night or look at my daughter knowing how little she cares about our feelings. I feel it's a slap in the face that she doesn't honor, respect or love us. What do you think?
- Beside Myself in Fort Worth
DEAR BESIDE YOURSELF: I think it is time you toned down the high drama. What's done is done. If you do not appreciate the person your daughter is beneath her skin, you will lose her. And that would be a tragedy!
DEAR ABBY: Our across-the-street neighbors feel they need to mow their lawn three times a week. This includes using a Weed eater and two mowers - a push mower and a large riding mower. Quite often, the husband chooses to mow after 8 p.m. He doesn't work and could do it during the morning hours if he wants it cooler.
The noise is loud and extremely disruptive, and lasts about an hour because he goes over and over the same area. We work and would like to enjoy the few hours we have in the evening. Any ideas?
- Tired of the Noise in Montana
DEAR TIRED OF THE NOISE: If you're on speaking terms with this neighbor, you should ask him if he would please manicure his lawn at a different time because the noise is disruptive. If he is unwilling to cooperate, check with the city to find out if there are any noise ordinances in place. If there are, you can report the noise as a nuisance.